If You Want Something Done Right

My father believed there was one best way to do things and he taught me what that best way was–everything from which direction and how many twists are appropriate when using a twist-tie, to the most efficient way to load the dishwasher, the appropriate way to fold shirts and underwear, and that you should sweep […]

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How to Make Friends Hate You – An Anniversary Tale

Why is it that we spend so much energy falling in love only to exert so little energy staying in love? I used to write my spouse (girlfriend at the time) love poems and write her love songs and sing them to her in a crowd of people. I would open doors for her, carry […]

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Emotional Protection and Trust

Do you feel protected and safe? Often times this question leads us to think about our physical protection and the safety of our surroundings. What if I rephrased the question? Are your emotions protected and safe? That question may require some thought before answering or perhaps asking more questions as we consider our answer. From […]

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Things We Learned From Our Children Raising Us

As a parent of six, soon to be seven, I’ve always believed that parents were the first teachers of their children. And while there is truth to this, it can also be said that children are the first teachers of their parents on parenting. I’ve gotten all kinds of advice from my parents and little […]

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Into the Darkness

He came into my home in the middle of the night.  He was irate, yelling as he was destroying the house looking for the alcohol that he thought I hid from him.  That night, I couldn’t save myself.   I was kicked around, beaten and then slammed up against my bedroom wall, he dangled me in […]

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Battle Buddies

When someone enlists into the U.S. Army, they are assigned a battle buddy (BB). What an adorable name for such a huge, and often scary, responsibility! It reminds me of when people say “hubby” or “wifey”; it’s cute, but it doesn’t really convey everything the roll entails. A team, whether it is soldiers in battle […]

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Waiting for the Dawn

I am a morning person. I make no apologies to all you night owls who have little appreciation for those of us who look forward getting up at the crack of dawn, with a smile on our face and a bounce in our step. The morning has always given me a feeling of a new […]

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How to be a financially responsible couple

It’s no surprise finances are a source of marital stress for many couples. While financial disagreements can’t be entirely avoided, you can take steps to reduce the amount of stress money causes your relationship. By following the tips below, you and your spouse will be able to manage your finances more wisely and reduce the […]

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15 Quick Lessons I’ve Learned in Marriage

During my married life, I’ve learned some lessons the hard way, over the course of weeks and months. Other things, however, I’ve picked up on quickly. These lessons range from silly to serious but are important to share. So, here are just a few quick lessons learned over my time as a spouse. 1. Your […]

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Whine and Dine

Sharing a meal together with your family is not only a great way to bond with the ones you love, but it is also a way to get to know them better. We have made it a priority in our family to eat all together as much as possible. You get to see the good, […]

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